I can completely relate to feeling overwhelmed and not having enough time in the day. We have all been there and it tends to be a common theme with moms. I mean we are all busy raising tiny humans, how could it not be?
SMALL CHANGES TO INCREASE HAPPINESS
Trust me, I get it. I created a lifestyle planner for busy moms simply because I needed help myself. I wasn’t organized. I needed a push to complete the things I needed to have the healthy lifestyle I constantly craved. The thing that I learned quickly is, we make time for the things we want to make time for. And the areas we have to push ourselves in we tend to fill it with useless things. That and there are waaay too many options which can leave us feeling overwhelmed.
A great step in the right direction is to make small changes. Changes that will make a great impact but do not require the feeling of being overwhelmed. Do not get caught up in overthinking it, start simply just doing it. Start somewhere, anywhere and make it happen. We tend to think of everything at once. I want to have a toned body, eat healthy, take care of my skin, create fun activities, go out with my friends, etc, etc, etc. So instead of freaking yourself out, pick one. If you want to pick small things from each one that is ok too. The only recommendation is that if you are starting to feel overwhelmed, scale back.
WRITE IT DOWN!
When you figure out you want to begin, get your calendar out or to-do list and write it down. If you write it down, you will tend to make it happen. Now that you have your cute planner, get used to looking at that planner daily. Creating the time for your item and actually sticking to it is one of the biggest parts to moving in the right direction. It is very easy to complain about what isn’t working but what you didn’t know is, it is even easier and requires less energy to simply write it down.
Research shows that if you write it down, you are 42% more likely to make it happen. If you are more hooked into putting your to-do list in your phone, that is ok too. Whichever option works for you is what you should use. Every brain and person work differently. An important step is to figure this out so you can succeed in your efforts. I used to be the person who would make fun of people that would say “Let me check my calendar” or “I scheduled us in my calendar”. I would just think… “pfft, how dumb that they have to schedule me”. When in fact, I was the dumb one who didn’t catch on early enough. This calendar/writing it down business is absolutely genius. Incredibly simple, just takes some time to get used to. Once it becomes a habit, bam.. the areas that I actually wanted to focus on where scheduled and done! Check!
FIGURE OUT WHAT ARE YOUR “TIME SUCKERS”
What is sucking your time and energy? Wasteful items making zero strides in achieving what you truly want to do in your day? What is taking away your healthy positive energy and healthy lifestyle? Some might say social media. That is a popular one that I get sucked into easily. I get so annoyed with myself when I waste my time and energy on social media. YES, I’m totally ok with the occasional look and post in the day. But when I actually go down the social media tunnel and get lost in who knows what, it truly annoys me. Because right then and there I know I could have been doing something that benefits me and or my family waaaay more. Things that make me/us feel good.
Guilt. Feeling guilty and saying yes to things that you do not want to do is an absolute time sucker. How many times have you done something you really don’t want to out of guilt? It’s time to stop worrying about what others will feel or think of you. You do YOU first. And most importantly you do YOUR FAMILY first. I’m not saying you have to be rude or lose friends over it. But take the time to determine what your schedule looks like so you don’t over do it. Take the time to fill your schedule with areas that are important to you and your family and then become the person that looks at the calendar before accepting an invite. Then you can honestly say: “I can schedule you in two weeks from now” and not feel bad about it. You will only start to feel bad when you do not have your important items in your calendar, start saying yes to activities and functions that do not fill your cup, get overwhelmed and back in the same place of not achieving what is best for YOU and what is best for YOUR FAMILY. And when I say fill your calendar. I am even talking about areas such as self-care, exercise, making your meal plans, family activities, etc.
MAKING IT HAPPEN
So now you have figured out the steps above, its time to make it happen. Who else is going to keep you accountable? Now that you have kids, your significant other might be overwhelmed too. Yes, they can still support you but ultimately it is up to you to figure out how to make it happen. Do not rely on others to achieve your happiness. Do not rely on others to create your healthy lifestyle. Start making yourself accountable daily, push yourself. Get focused and create discipline.
Make it a habit to wake up and look at your calendar. See what you have on your agenda and to-do list. Prepare your mind for the day and get to it. Create that same habit of creating your agenda and to-do list for the next day at night time. So now you have two solid times that are easy to stick to. You can do them in bed when you have down time. It only takes a few minutes to create a day of happiness a day of achievement to fill your cup. The change happens when you are ready..
So are you ready?
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